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The most important conversation you will ever have? 

The most important conversation you will ever have? 


We all have an inner conversation going on in our minds – our thoughts, our internal dialogue. An inner voice that is constantly giving a running commentary, from ‘Yes, I think I’ll go and make a cup of tea’ to ‘God, I can’t do this anymore’.

We have an internal monologue that we can quieten, change direction, or just let run lose in our heads. But there is a very important fact to this internal conversation, that truly makes it the most important conversation you will ever have.

Not only is it the only continual conversation that you will have from the very start of your life right through to the end, but it is also the one that matters most, because what we say to ourselves internally affects us emotionally –  in the exact same way as others talking about/to us externally can.

So, if the person who is continually talking to you all day in your mind is in fact you, with your thoughts and your internal chatter, and if those thoughts have the same emotional effect as  someone else saying them, then this is definitely the conversation we need to watch and to keep in check.

Imagine how you would feel if you were going about your business all day and you had someone following you, constantly telling you how useless you were, doubting your every move, being critical or judgemental towards you.

You would come home at the end of the day feeling down, deflated, sad and maybe even irritable.

Just the same way that if you had someone following you around all day telling you what a great job you were doing, how amazing you are, how kind, how powerful – you would come home at the end of your day feeling on top of the world!

This is the exact power we can use to our advantage (or our disadvantage) every single day.

We have the power to choose our thoughts in the same way we choose our clothes every morning.

Those thoughts that are running in the background or directed at you, those thoughts matter more than any other conversation you will have with any other person today, because that is the only continual conversation you have and it has the power to make you or break you.

So, use your power, notice your thoughts.

What have you been saying to yourself recently?

Have you been doubting and judging yourself? Or have you been empowering and kind to yourself?

When we start to notice what conversations we are having internally, then we can start to change them for the better.​

The next time you notice yourself being unkind to yourself or being your own worst critic in your mind, I want you to stop, pause, take a deep breath and choose again.

Choose a positive thought, choose a new thought and choose the power that’s within you for you to decide what you are feeding your mind all day.

Do you want it to be the thing that brings you down or the thing that empowers you to create the life that you want?

There is so much negativity going on in the world right now, so much anger and judgement, fear and even hate. So, don’t let that judgement, fear and anger come to you, from you.

Make sure that inside your mind is your very own sanctuary for kindness and positivity to yourself.

Remind yourself every day that you are enough and that you have the ability to choose any thought you want.

So, make it the thoughts that take you to the places you want to go, not the thoughts that keep you trapped in doubt, anxiety and self-judgement.

You are limitless, just like your mind.

Don’t forget that, and keep checking in on your internal conversation.

It truly is the most powerful one you will ever have.


Alice Law is a Stress Management & Holistic Performance Coach, Certified Life Coach, Reiki Practitioner & Intuitive, Mindfulness Practitioner, International Speaker, 5* Rated Podcaster and International Best-Selling Co-Author of the 6 x International Best Selling book, ‘The Law of Brand Attraction’. You can find her at www.lawali-life.com or @lawali_life on Instagram.


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