If you need some help between the sheets, take heed of Laura Hills’ top tips to help you prepare for Karma Sutra levels of lovemaking!
Start the arousal with the clothes on!
Arousal doesn’t start the moment your clothes come off; the build up begins way before you get to the bedroom. Build up the suspense and excitement by sending each other saucy texts throughout the day, talk about the times you’ve had great sex together and what you want to do when you get your hands on each other. Love and sex coach Cate Mackenzie (www.catemackenzie.com) says: “Female sexuality can have a slow build. If you think of a kettle that takes all day to boil then you may have a good sense of how to woo your lady through regular sexy text messages, and when you are with her touch and teasing. This slow arousal can build her to a great heat and make her ravenous for you when you meet her later.”
Pulsate for longevity
There are very few techniques as successful at improving your orgasm than building up your longevity in the sack. Practice by masturbating right up until the point of ejaculation, stopping and waiting 30 seconds before carrying on. This technique is known as ‘edging’ to the experts and it will help you achieve ‘dry’ orgasms, aka all the fun of having one minus actually coming. With enough practice you could even find yourself having multiple orgasms. Sex expert Dr Pam Spurr (@Drpamspurr) says: “Not only is this technique excellent for enjoying better and more orgasms but it significantly helps staying power – a worry for far too many men.”
Out of the ordinary
Most men go straight for the obvious erogenous zones, so do something out of the ordinary to really spice things up. “Kiss and lick her neck, eyelids and her entire face paying attention to her arms and her feet,” says Cate. “Take in her whole body, warming and stroking as many areas as you can and pay particular attention to her lower back and bottom. It’ll drive her wild.”
Meat and greet
Research shows that the amino acid found in meats such as beef, chicken and pork improves blood flow to your penis, doing wonders for your sex life. Similarly a glass of red wine will also help to give your bedroom antics a boost, according to research by The Journal of Sexual Medicine just one glass increases sexual desire and lubrication in women which can only be a good thing for you.
Hot and cold
Sudden changes in temperature can be extremely arousing for both of you when applied to the skin, especially during oral. Try teasing her with an ice lolly, or get her to put an ice cube in her mouth while she goes down on you. The contrast with your warm tongues will drive you both wild. “Surprise and mystery can drive you wild, so changing the temperature immediately adds an element of surprise which is a real turn on,” says Cate. “You wont regret it!”
According to research by the University of Indiana couples who performed four different sex acts during one session found that the woman reached orgasm 76% of the time and as you should know, if she’s having a good time, so will you. Sex and relationship psychologist Donna Dawson says: “Variety is great for improving your sex life, especially if you’re in a relationship as it stops you falling into a rut. It can be very hard for a woman to climax in the missionary position, so try experimenting with different techniques.”
By far the most important sexual organ we have is the brain, stimulate that and you’re on to a winner. Donna says: “There are many ways to do this but I strongly recommend blindfolding each other – not being able to see what’s happening next will be an instant turn on for you both. A lot of women don’t enjoy sex unless they are physically relaxed, so you could also try lighting candles or evening introducing massage oil to the mix – it’ll guarantee results.”
Break the routine
Spontaneity is key to improving your sex life. So, if you’re the kind of couple who always has sex before falling asleep at night try setting the morning alarm a little earlier and fitting in a quick session before work. “Take the yawn-factor out of your sex life with this type of spontaneity,” explains Pam. “And it doesn’t always have to be about having spontaneous, full sex. Add in a bit of a tease – wake up a few minutes early, start stroking her sensually and then whisper sweet nothings.”
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